Seeing Your Beauty Through Other People's Eyes


I’m still easing back into the week, and here it is Friday! Haha! I guess that’s what happens when you’re on vacation for a majority of the week. Not that I’m complaining…

Earlier this week, while in Key West, I visited White Street Pier and the Key West AIDS Memorial. It was beautiful, to say the least. The memorial is right on the street, but the pier (now actually called Edward B. Knight Pier) extends out into the water and you’re just kind of out there, alone with yourself.

Of course, I wasn’t alone, my partner, Mike, my daughter, Ems, and our friend, Eylin, were with me. But you still feel so small – the ocean does that to me every time; it’s one of the many reasons I love it so! It’s also a great place for a photo op. I shot a few pics and then asked my daughter to take my picture. She did so and then smiled when she looked at the shot. “Wow. Look how beautiful you are!” she said, full of awe.

And it hit me: No matter how much mindfulness work I’ve done, no matter how many body-positive meditations I’ve participated in either as student or teacher – I still pick out the little insignificant imperfections in my pictures. But to my daughter, I am beautiful. Just as I am.

See, her definition of my beauty is the combination of everything that she sees on a daily basis: my humor, my curly hair (it got SO curly in the Keys!), my smile, my confidence, my soft hugs, and the stories we share. Not my cellulite.

Now, I’m not posting the image for compliments or for, really, any feedback of any kind. It’s not an exceptional picture. They’re not going to put me on the cover of a magazine. But to my daughter, to my partner, and I know to my friends, I’m beautiful. Sometimes I need the reminder that what I see in the mirror isn’t what others see.

At that moment, I decided to try and see myself through my girl’s eyes. To remind myself that when I feel a little insecure about a part of my body, I’m the only one who sees it. I’m the only one who knows – or even cares – that the drape of a shirt covers a little hip roll I’m less than thrilled with.

So this is my reminder to you. I know each and every one of you – even if just from afar or via social media – and I’m telling you right now: You are beautiful. You are wise. You are sexy. You are simply awesome. I’m proud to know you and to call you one of my tribe.

Mindfulness is an ongoing process

You can’t just do some mindset work one day and expect to retain the new ideas forever. You have to continually work on it. Ready to love your body, in all its beauty, AS IT IS NOW?

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