Hey there! I'm Megan and I chose to rewrite my story & live my life Intentionally Happy.
I've always been the one who helped - the "big sister" to friends, the mother figure to others, and the advice giver, the sage, the guide to those in need. As far back as high school, people came to me with their questions.
How do I know if so-and-so likes me? What should I do about Mrs. ____ who won't give me extra credit? My mom is being such a pain. Why won't she listen to me?
When I got into college, I meandered my way in and out of majors - history, poli sci, psychology, back to history, oh with a bunch of psychology - always searching for something more. I wanted to help others. And then life got in the way.
My first husband (yes, there have been more than one) signed up for the US Army "for four years" to get the benefits associated with the GI Bill so he could go to college. I left school at the University of North Texas and trekked with him to Tokyo, Japan. Talk about culture shock!
It was in Tokyo that I experienced a wave of depression for the second time in my life.
As a child, I struggled with depression, dealing with a demanding mother, and the loss of my person (Grey's Anatomy reference) - my father's mother, my Nana. In Tokyo, I felt so alone. It didn't matter that I was on an air base surrounded by a bunch of people who were in the same boat as me. I was isolated. I didn't have a job - no real qualifications - and I assumed the position of a housewife. Let's just say I'm not suited for the gender roles and baggage that comes with that.
About a year into our 3-year tour there, surprise! I was pregnant! My daughter, Emma (Ems for short) was born 9ish months later, and about a year after that, she and I left my first husband to come back to North Texas so I could reenroll in classes at UNT ahead of his return and separation from the Army. Did I mention that I’d had postpartum depression after Ems was born? My husband told me I wasn’t depressed, just tired. He could tell. I look back on the photos of that time and I’m smiling, but there’s no joy.
Well, it turns out that separation was fortuitous. I think the Universe was watching out for me - or maybe it was my beloved angel Nana. It was during this time, when I was back around a support system of my family and my local church that I learned things about my marriage that made it unbearable to remain in it.
Crushed, betrayed, scared to death - remember, I'd put my life on hold for his and now I didn't have marketable skills, barely had a college degree (I’d just started my Masters), and had a 18 month old - I filed for divorce. Talk about a time of strife and stress.
But, things had to change!
So I started writing – like REALLY writing.
I’ve always enjoyed writing. In fact, I have permanent callouses on two of my fingers from the hours I spent gripping a pen in my right hand and scribbling stories in my notebooks.
Don't get me wrong. I'm not suggesting writing healed my depression. It just gave me something to do to take my mind off the things that I felt I couldn't change.
I had aspirations for writing and teaching. I decided I was not going to let my divorce take my Master’s Degree from me. I would, instead, work on the small business that my mother and I had started – Princess Pea Designs – and take up freelance writing to help cover some bills while I searched for a “real job.”
Yes, I was bull-headed, but I’m so glad that I was.
Working toward a graduate degree as a single mother and business owner put me in the position to suss out the things that just don’t work.
I had to work on my mindset every day – BEFORE hundreds of mindset coaches hit the Internet – and I had to keep my depression in check.
Because my life depended on it. Have you ever felt this way?
In that same time, I made the unfortunate choice of getting married too quickly after my divorce. I was terrified, and I didn’t have the tools to keep fear at bay. I was also raised in a family where the man took care of the wife and the wife took care of the kids and I didn’t see how I could get through life in any other way. I mean, I was the first woman to earn a Bachelor’s Degree in my family, let alone a graduate degree!
So, it wasn’t a surprise when that relationship came to an end very shortly thereafter. But this time, I learned how to respond to my soon-to-be-ex, rather than react. I learned how to seek out friends and family members to build me up when I was feeling down.
I began practicing mindfulness without realizing – again, before the term became a buzz word.
And I was practicing what I now call Intentional Happiness.
I had a daughter to support & a future to discover. I would find out later that my depression was in large part due to an undiagnosed thyroid condition and that's the only way I was able to power through the hard days. But power through I did!
I was a pioneer, and I was determined.
So I took the next year or so to finish my Master’s Degree, figure out what I didn’t want, write the dating advice book that everyone in my life prompted me to write, self-published it when the industry was just a handful of us, moved away from the restrictive, conservative religion from my first marriage, aced an interview with a local publishing agency and got a job there, and met the man of my dreams. Those events provided the foundation for where I am now, the owner of an independent publishing and marketing company Brainy Babe Micro Pub, a mindfulness and meditation coach, a partner in a loving relationship, the mom to a kick-ass teenager, and the master of my own life.
My life completely transformed after I stopped filling it up with people and things that didn’t really resonate with me and I listened to the inner voice.
The one that calls out and says, “You’re destined for more.” Can you relate?
"Something's not right," that inner voice said for long enough that I finally got the help I needed. Today, my hypothyroidism is managed. Oddly enough, all the mindfulness and mindset work that I've been doing for years are a direct result of me trying to manage a condition that was out of my control. Now I'm all about teaching others how to combat burnout, stress, anxiety, and just that fed-up feel that I know soulful entrepreneurs and healers experience.
Today, I live a life of freedom. Freedom looks different to everyone. But to me it looks like:
Being my own boss.
Having the time to go to my daughter’s school events.
Not suffering from burnout at the end of the week.
Infusing my business with spiritual, feminine aspects – meditation, oracle cards, sage smudging, lighting candles, and doing targeted mindset work.
Working with inspired women (and some men) who conduct business from the soul, heal the sick, or make the world a better place.
Taking care of my health and nurturing my body on the continual journey that is living with hypothyroidism.
Connecting with my man and building a non-profit organization together.
Dancing in the kitchen in the middle of the day for no reason other than it just feels good!
I believe in reinvention and transformation. I believe that there’s never a too late. I believe that we are all destined for greatness.
Are you ready to create freedom for yourself? To live the life you’ve always dreamed of? To help others without suffering from the burnout that comes from owning your own business, your own medical practice, or launching a new program?
I know you have the same power within you that I do – the drive, the hunger, to be more and do more, but in a sustainable way.
To infuse your business & life with soul!
Today is the day, my friend. The time is NOW.
Don’t put your life and your peace on hold for any longer. Trust me, life-changing moments are fantastic for shifting your focus and redirecting your energy, but boy do they hurt.
The changes I’ve made in my life are simple, they just take a little heart.
Join me on this journey. Here’s the first step. And it’s totally free:
The Official Bio
Megan Winkler is a meditation and mindfulness teacher, Certified Happiness Life Coach, and principal of Brainy Babe Micro Pub. After teaching at the collegiate level, Megan segued into teaching small groups how to become more mindful.
Today, she works with physicians and entrepreneurs to determine how to work in the most efficient way possible, while maintaining mindfulness throughout their day.
Megan completed a meditation instructor fellowship with the Neurosculpting® Institute in Denver, Colorado, in 2014 where she trained new mindfulness facilitators, and has studied Mindfulness Meditation with the University of Holistic Theology in addition to her life coach certification. She also holds a master’s degree in American and military history from American Military University as well as certifications in Nutritional Therapy and Relationship Workshop Facilitation.
Megan is the author of Transmissions from Dating Land and various fiction and nonfiction titles. Her work has been featured in publications including elephant journal, CultureMap, The Alternative Daily, Earth911, and the Neurosculpting® Institute. She's currently writing Intentionally Happy: How to Move from Surviving to Thriving with Joy.